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I feel really stuck and unsure what I can do to move my divorce forwards. Just wondering if anyone has been in a similar position and what you did or any family solicitors that can provide input?!
Background: after many years of problems I started divorce proceedings. Decree Nisi went through in Spring. My Form E and financials all done and after the Decree Nisi went through I told him we needed to do financial disclosure and mediation. I provided details of local mediators recommended by friends. He wasn't happy with any of them. No idea why other than possibly they were female and he somehow thinks they will be biased to me. 🤷♀️ We're now mid Sep and nothing is moving forwards. He is a chronic procrastinator and prone to inaction so this is not unexpected but we are living in limbo under the same roof and it's causing me so much stress. I feel he has all the control and I'm just stuck until he decides to engage. FWIW - classic story in that we both work FT but he earns considerably more as I took time out when we had children and have been the primary carer since as have flexible hours working from home. Kids school age. Assets are house equity and pensions. His only reason for delaying things is to protect himself financially. He has no loyalty or lingering feelings. Under no illusions on this sadly.
Limited funds for legal advice but so far just paid to be told I need to move to mediation. All well and good but how do I get him there?! And how do I avoid costs mounting up and court if he won't engage?
Any words of wisdom please or just a little empathy from anyone else struggling? 🙏
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