I want to separate, but STBXH is abusive, and seems to get angrier as he feels I "checked out" from the relationship. I spoke to a DV organization (I'm in Germany, not UK). Spoke to solicitor.
Solicitor told me to talk to STBXH and then decide what to do. DV counsellor told me to ask lawyer to send a letter to STBHX and then be ready to call the police if he becomes violent.
In the meantime, STBXH stabbed the dinner table with a knife when I told him he was not involved with DC's school. Kicked a chair.
I want to get rid of him. I want him out of the house. If I can't do that, I want to go to a shelter or somewhere. I don't have savings, can't pay for weeks in a hotel or something like that. Have no family or close friends here (have been living in Germany for one year only).
So I'm stuck here, counting the hours for the weekend to end, so I can be alone and try to decide something. I'm afraid of making the first move - because if it is the wrong move, god know what he will do. Right now he is on the phone arranging for friends to visit us next month. But either he or I + DC won't be here next week. And I can't say anything. I can't make any move.
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The chess game from hell!
boringornot · 08/09/2019 13:48
Call the police for each incident and document, document, document. Contact them and report the knife incident.
That will be your best chance of having it taken seriously in German family court - and eventually potentially for you to potentially be granted permission to move the children back to London. That's a long shot, I caution you, but it may be more likely if you can evidence domestic abuse.
If you keep quiet, the starting assumption will be that it didn't happen.
Wish I had documented from the get go. It's a lot more uphill without that reporting history.
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