I’m at my wits end, and tonight I finally snapped. My wife has spent the last several months threatening me with divorce on a regular basis. Things have reached a head as she’s threatened me 6 times over the month. Yes, it’s become so frequent that I’ve taken to writing down each and every instance. Most of the time it’s seemingly been completely forgotten by her 24 hours later, but not without me feeling very upset and very insecure with many a sleepless night. She’s threatened me again this evening and this time I snapped...rather than just soak up the brickbats I fired back that I wasn’t going to stand for the constant brinkmanship any more and that I was all set to kick off divorce proceedings. No, our relationship isn’t great but she is permanently stressed at work and lives in a permanent state of semi chaos which adds even more stress. We tried to talk about things, or more specifically her, on a recent holiday but she kept changing the subject so it was a complete waste of time. She didn’t spend much with me as she was often working or sleeping. Our sex life is almost non existent, she is mostly uninterested in me sexually (it didn’t help that i accidentally found out she posted on Mumsnet about this a few years back...I was mortified). She doesn’t want to talk at bedtime and instead buries herself in Netflix.
She blames me for everything, I tried to write to her a few weeks back in the midst of yet another crisis and she threw the whole thing back in my face and told me I was being self indulgent. We had marriage counselling a few ago but she trashed the counsellor so that was the end of that.
I don’t want a divorce but she seems hellbent in it. I don’t want a divorce as no good will come of it for either of us, it will kill me and she will realise that I’m not the cause of her unhappiness. It will be horrendous for our poor kids.
I really don’t know what to do.
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Can’t Go On Like This
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jfh · 01/09/2019 20:00
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