I will try to make this as brief as possible. DH and I have been together for about 24 years and married for 15. We have a 14 and 8 year old. 4 years ago he went to work in the ME. Due to the nature of his job this is where the work is. We managed really well until Christmas this year when he took a different job in the ME and it now turns out he has met someone else and wants to get divorced. I feel heartbroken and don’t quite know where to turn. Basically put my life on hold for 4 years so he could do the work he wanted to do and this happens. I work 28 hours a week as a TA in a school and take home roughly £900 a month (although being a TA my salary is pro-rated across the year). Situation is further complicated by the fact that as DH lives/works in the ME he is non-domiciled for tax purposes so I’m assuming for CM etc it will register he earns nothing. He’s actually been quite reasonable(at the moment) and said he will sign the house over to me. It’s valued at about £285k and we have around £75k left on the mortgage so I was thinking I could just sell it and get something smaller which would take away the mortgage payments at least? It’s more the day to day stuff I’m worried about. I also have Rheumatoid Arthritis and while I’m ok at the moment there is no guarantee I’m going to be able to keep working in the future. My salary won’t pay the bills etc (and in a way I’m being selfish because I want my children to have the life they did before without me scrimping and saving for everything). We do have some money in a savings account which is there for my oldest son to go to University. It’s currently in my name...I’m assuming that will stop me claiming any benefits? Apologies for all the daft questions...feel like my whole world has just come crashing down and I don’t know what to do.
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