Living with my ex

Don't dit next to him on the couch.
He is deliberately tryingto hurt you because you hurt him (by instigating the break up)
Sit elsewhere. Even better: go to the fym? Meet up with friends? See a cool movie? Read a selfhelp book with kickass advice?

Also: you splitting up has nothing to do with your ability to "mum". You can still be a kick as mum! And you are. And you will be.

Kick some ass, kick as mum!

Can you do anything practical with furniture so that you are not going to be sitting in the same room. My situation was different - kicked out of my own home with a small suitcase he packed so I have no experience but if you could effectively turn your bedroom into a bedsit as an interim measure - get a kettle, TV and a microwave that you will need I'm the new place anyhow and stay out of the lounge more? May help a bit if you aren't seeing it......

I am in this situation now, although he is the one that instigated the split. Neither of us are dating either, but anyway, we mostly sit in separate rooms, so one of us in lounge and one in the bedroom (separate bedrooms) of an evening. We don't argue but I don't want to see his face at the moment.

I had a similar situation, we have 2 children. I made sure I spent time developing my social life- not in terms of dating- but going to friends houses, out to the pub, late night dancing etc- it felt good to get out the house myself and see other people and to start to have fun again. And although not the point of it, it also felt good that he could see my life was continuing without him.

PS - take this time to get yourself educated. Seek financial advice, investigate benefits if that's relevant. Research local housing options and schools etc if you're having to move - all that stuff. Get legal advice. Start making plans for the "after"
I wrote a bucket list and put all sorts of things on it - some obtainable some total fantasy but write it down anyway as inspiration. I'm still making my way through my list!

Hi. I did this for 10/11 months. It is incredibly hard. I could hear my exh talking to his new flame on the phone late at night.. (thin walls) There is no magic answer I'm afraid. Just take 1 day at a time. Get out as much as you can. Try to implement a schedule for taking turns looking after your boy (although we never managed that!) use friends to sound off & be kind to yourself. some days will be hell - other days will be better and over time the hell days will become less frequent.