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Divorce/separation

I think it's over between my husband and I

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Crumpledpancake · 27/07/2019 12:11

Just wanting a virtual hand hold really. H and I were supposed to be going away for the weekend to celebrate our wedding anniversary, but we've had a row and now it's all off. Basically H has two sides to him, the good side and the bad side. I've lived with him and his moods for a long time, but lately it's been making me more angry than sad and I tend to fly off the handle at the smallest thing.
I got home from work yesterday excited about the weekend and I could tell he was in a mood. I asked if he was excited and he said "not particularly". I couldn't believe it, we've been talking about it for months!

So this morning he was still in his mood and basically we had a row while getting petrol and he stormed off. What happened was, I needed to go in the supermarket so he stayed in the car. When I returned he had gone. I thought he'd ditched me seeing as we have had a low level quarrel since last night. Then he turned up and said he was going to get petrol while I was in the shop but then saw me coming out. I asked why he hadn't just told me he was going to get petrol, or phoned. We had another quarrel and he stormed off. I drove home. We weren't far from home so I just thought he'd walk home, cool off and we could make up. But he hasn't returned or phoned.

There have been so many problems between us over the last few years, I feel like this is the last straw for me. I'm sitting at home feeling fed up. Our DD is with her grandparents. What should I do? I'm always the one who phones him and begs to make up, but I just don't want to this time. 😢 I feel so disappointed right now.

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HennyPennyHorror · 27/07/2019 12:49

Go on the holiday. Bloody miserable bugger. Don't phone him....let him be miserable on his own!

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Gruzinkerbell1 · 27/07/2019 12:51

Go away for the weekend. Use the time to think about whether this is really how you want to spend the rest of your life.

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HollowTalk · 27/07/2019 12:58

I agree you should go away for the weekend. Let him sulk at home.

What percentage of the time do you dislike him?

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Whisky2014 · 27/07/2019 13:02

Yeh fuck him. He's orchestrated this to ruin your holiday. Please go yourself!

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stucknoue · 27/07/2019 13:15

I would text him and say you are leaving in 30 minutes, is he coming. He does sound a bit like my h, I didn't do anything, put up with it and now find myself middle aged and separated, should have split years ago

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FlowerAndBloom · 31/07/2019 07:03

He sounds a dream....is this what you would want in a relationship for a daughter? Treat yourself better xx

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Molly333 · 31/07/2019 22:56

How often does his mood fluctuate that would worry me . Your daughter will also watch what you do and probably learn to pacify men if you stay in this . I would tell him his mood swings are unacceptable and he needs to get help

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