Hello, my story is a long and shocking one and it's very difficult to condense, I don't know which way to turn and desperate for any advice. Here is a brief outline: More than 10 years ago, I found out my husband had racked up 40k in gambling debts, which I cleared, telling him if it ever happened again he would have to leave. That money I had saved was to pay off the mortgage (property in my name only). Fast forward, 3 years ago my husband took our children on holiday with his family and unbeknown to me, had put a charge on the house 3 weeks prior and that was the last I saw of my children! Sadly, from then on, the children have been clearly told a pack of lies about me and have said they want no contact with me ever again. I have fought through the courts these past 3 years and now penniless to no avail because they have now reached the ages of 16 and 18. My husband is seeking to claim 70% of the property although I have paid 90% and it's almost paid for, which obviously I have proof of. Initially, 3 years ago, he asked for 70% of the money and said if I gave it to him he would leave me alone, if I didn't agree, he would break me and literally take everything from me. Nothing could have been worse anyway than taking the children and brainwashing them, filling their heads with lies so bad that they believe its for the best they never see me again. It is the most shocking situation and he is now asking for a divorce and I don't know whether to simply give in sell the home, agree to give him half and try and move on. Up until 3 years ago, my relationship with my children was pretty perfect, they were 13 and 15 at the time, we very rarely argued which is perfectly normal with teens, they were doing great in school, I would have their friends over to the house as and when they liked, we spent tons of quality time on lovely days out together at weekends and in school hols (husband rarely with us - saying he was working). It's not just me the children haven't seen in these 3 years, but also their grandparents, uncles and aunties (all from my side). The children have made accusations about myself and even included their grandmother who has only ever shown kindness towards them. So, after exhausting trying to highlight signs of parental alienation it has been a race against time. Time has run out now to the ages the children have now reached, the fact that they have stated clearly they want nothing to do with me and that I have now run out of money as well as hope...…..any advice will be greatly received.....thank you
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