Been split up a year, decree nisi announced a few weeks back, I'm almost over the line! Doesn't see the children due to safeguarding - police and my solicitor advised a court application would be necessary to ensure Cafcass assessments were done. Hasn't bothered. Rents his own flat, we both had some CC debt when he left - I've been paying mine off, he's defaulted on everything he has and has also taken out a huge personal loan, now also defaulted. The house was valued this week at exactly the purchase price we paid. We've only had it a short time, so haven't dented the mortgage much so there is less than £20k equity. Selling costs and mortgage redemption penalty on top would reduce this to about £13k. Deposit and £10k of home improvements paid for by me, and £10k of his debt transferred onto my interest free CC which I've almost cleared. Difference in income of £15k per year advantage to me but I have three young children to support and two have wraparound school care, one has nursery fees. DEO in place for child maintenance with £2k of arrears. Still - he has piped up stating he's going back to appeal the divorce costs being issued against him, and he's insisting for the house to be sold at £50k more than its worth because he needs more than 50% and believes he should get it because he is more in debt than I am. What's mad is that there is nothing now I can do other than apply to court and pay money to a solicitor in the hope that a judge will tell him he's being unrealistic. I'm also potentially facing a pension share order although mine is small because he chose to opt out and spend his money on having relationships outside of our marriage. I so wish someone had sat me down prior to getting married and warned me about what could happen :(
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