STBXH left 4 months ago. Horrible circumstances - lots of upset etc. We seem to be heading towards him having our two children Saturday 10am to Sunday 3pm every other weekend. I would like it to be more but that may come in time. He is adamant he cannot possibly have them during the working week.
I would like to hear views on how much, and the nature of, contact resident parents here have with the non resident parent during the week. I am not someone who is glued to the phone but STBXH sends regular simple "how are the children?" messages. That's not unreasonable in itself but I am struggling with how to deal with them.
He gets very cross if I don't respond immediately - it isn't always possible and the messages are always at awkward times (mealtimes, getting ready for school, bedtime). If I reply with a simple "they are well - both happy" then it's a bit pointless and he claims I'm not telling him anything and trying to distance him from the children. But I am loath to start long newsy messages when he doesn't reply or really seem interested - and it's a drain on my time especially now I have to do everything on my own.
What's normal here? Is it best to make an effort, for the children? (Although I'm struggling to see how they benefit - it would be best if he would be willing to call them!).
Children are 6 and 2.
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Bubblebrush · 21/06/2019 08:17
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