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Should I give the keys back?

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Isreeh Thu 13-Jun-19 10:14:59

Hello, my DH and I are separated. He doesn't seem to be interested in counselling or working on the marriage. When we got married I moved into his house (which he already owned and paid for). He is now asking me send back the house keys.

There are no children and we have only been married for 1 year and half. I am divorcing him due to his UB (adultery etc), however is there any reason I should not give back the keys? Is there a strategic move in him wanting the keys back? Any advice would be welcome.

Thanks x

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 Thu 13-Jun-19 10:19:49

Tell him to come and get them if he wants them.

Isreeh Thu 13-Jun-19 10:35:27

@NotSuchaASmugMarriedNow1, he saying I should not read into it but I don't believe him. He's with another woman and I am not sure what his plan is.

I feel like saying yes come and collect them.

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 Thu 13-Jun-19 10:49:54

He's just being awkward he could easily change the lock. And you could easily have got a spare key.

Nah make him come and get it if it's really important to him

ComeAndDance Thu 13-Jun-19 10:54:24

Have you had legal advice?

Because you’ve been married for quiTe a short time, I’m not sure what youR rights are re the house.

Having said that, i suspect he just wants what he ses as his back (and he might well be legally right there) and have someone else moving in with him.

Isreeh Thu 13-Jun-19 10:54:25

He's a tight arse so if he does not have to spend money then he will take that option.

I really think he can easily make a copy, but there might be something more why he wants me to send them back. I don't trust him, he has lied, cheated and abused me for a long time.

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Isreeh Thu 13-Jun-19 10:56:56

@ComeAndDance, I think you have a point. He just wants what's his back because he may feel I can come back any time to the house. It's a control thing too.

Legally I am not entitled to anything due to the short marriage but this was one of my last things I had.

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LemonTT Thu 13-Jun-19 13:36:45

Well just send them back. What are you going to do with them ? Break in.

Seriously if someone did you would be first on the list of suspects

Itsnotme123 Thu 13-Jun-19 23:52:10

Why do you want to keep them ? Once you have your stuff out of the house, then that’s it. Give them back.

LikeDolphinsCanSwin Fri 14-Jun-19 00:07:32

I can't think of any genuine reason for you to keep them. Would you want him to have keys for where you are living?

crustycrab Fri 14-Jun-19 00:56:47

You need to just send them back or tell him he can collect them

Jb291 Fri 14-Jun-19 01:32:25

If the marriage has ended because he has cheated and wants to move his dirty bit on the side in then I would be dumping the keys in a public bin somewhere. You may not get anything to do with the house as part of the divorce settlement so why should you inconvenience yourself to give the keys back. Have you moved all your stuff out?

Isreeh Fri 14-Jun-19 22:37:11

Hi ladies, yes I moved my things out and he’s saying for him to have his keys back will hell deal his anxiety for not living in the house. He moved out with the woman and says I made him feel uncomfortable but it’s all BS. Excuses for his affair. I guess I got no reason to keep them.

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Jb291 Fri 14-Jun-19 23:11:59

Have you separated finances and initiated divorce proceedings? I would feel no guilt about dumping the keys in a bin somewhere.He's accusing you of making him feel uncomfortable?? Sounds like a cheating gaslighting arsehole. You're well rid of him. You might not get anything much in the way of divorce settlement because the marriage was short but any joint finances should be split. Clean break agreement sounds best and divorce proceedings should be quick and uncomplicated if no joint assets.

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