Going through awful split with partner of 15 yrs. Have suffered years of financial abuse and what I now realise is narcissistic abuse. We have 3 DCs- 13, 11 and 5yrs. Had first mediation meeting today which did not go well. The house is in my name (thank god) and I put the deposit in. We've only been on interest only and we bought at peak so house hasn't gone up. To make matters worse house is unsellable anyway (not that I intend to sell any time soon) as there is subsidence. Incredibly he is saying he should half the equity in the house despite the fact that for over 10 yrs the majority of outgoings were paid by my part time wage and tax credits. He's self employed handyman/ builder and tbh has always been shifty about what he earns. Went nuts couple of years ago over money and demanded we set up joint account into which we both put in money, tax credits go in and mortgage, bills, kids stuff etc go out of. Off the back of this he suddenly made effort to get more work and yet expected me to put in same amount despite fact was just working 15 hrs. Have gone up to 27 hrs since youngest started school last Sep. He is now working 40 odd and earning double what I am. His mum will buy him somewhere and I will be left with a property with loads of problems and yet he still wants to shaft me. Anyone else had experience of this/ pearls of wisdom?
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