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To stay separated and not divorce

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Faybaline Wed 22-May-19 13:59:55

Hi there can you stay separated (not legally separated) without getting a divorce thanks

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wobytide Wed 22-May-19 14:45:40

Yes.As long as separated is defined as you aren't in a physical relationship with each other

Faybaline Wed 22-May-19 15:37:31

Thanks for answering my question I don't want to separate but I'd rather that than a divorce at the moment

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barryfromclareisfit Wed 22-May-19 15:42:46

Go for divorce. Separation just delays things and costs extra money.

Herland Wed 22-May-19 15:46:06

You may have no choice if your wife /husband wishes to divorce. But yes you can have a legal separation as long as both parties agree. You might find it is in your best interest to divorce in terms of your entitlement to assets, speak to a solicitor.

RubberTreePlant Wed 22-May-19 15:55:24

If you are going to do that, get a judicial separation, and make proper financial agreements.

stucknoue Wed 22-May-19 16:08:35

Yes, and if you get a court order it splits you financially without the need to divorce but think about why? If he wants to split, is it because you want him to change his mind? I'm in a similar position but I'm coming round to the fact that I can't change him

Faybaline Wed 22-May-19 16:16:47

We both can't afford a divorce both our boys are grown up 30 and 21 years old I agree with you but will try a separation first

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 Wed 22-May-19 16:26:46

How much is a divorce?

Faybaline Wed 22-May-19 16:42:42

Where I live solicitors can up to and over a £1,000

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lovealab Wed 22-May-19 16:52:03

Court fees are £550 ( in England) & you don't necessarily need to employ solicitors....I slapped mine on the credit card just to get it over with as leaving it would mean those fees would only rise over time.......

Hecateh Wed 22-May-19 17:19:00

I was separated for 12 years before we got divorced.
I knew I didn't want him back. But couldn't really afford it and then it just became a none issue for me.
We were legally separated in that we had sorted out finances and custody; I had no intention of remarrying so I just didn't care.
He instigated the divorce when he wanted to remarry and we didn't bother with solicitors

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