So exh and I separated in January 2017. Since then we have an every other weekend arrangement where he collects them Friday at 1600 and we meet on a Sunday at 1800 to swap back.
In the last 2 years it's been really really hard times! it's been on and off issues between us from him trying to change collection arrangements to not being flexible or offering any other help and assistance in school holiday or anything. We both work full time and live about 40 mins away from each other. He has had them
Minimal times in school holidays and I have to also beg him to have them.....
Anyway fast forward to this weekend and today and I've finally had enough. He now wants me to send clothes for his visits and has told the kids he pays me enough I have to send clothes. I've told him before I won't as they either don't come back, come back stained and how do I know what they are doing and what to pack; never mind the extra washing when they come back!
After many aggressive text messages today I've finally told him no contact with the kids until he takes me to court. I've had enough of him half heartily seeing them. He also doesn't contact them at all Over the 2 weeks they are with me.
I want him to take me to court.
I want it formal what he has to do and when and a more fair spilt on holidays and birthdays etc.
So I've text and just said that's it. Enough take me to court.
So am I allowed to do this?
We have no formal agreement to say they live with me? We do have a court order as he owes me a large sum of money next year when he gets a pay out and that mentions the kids reside with me but nothing more than that.......
Any advice?!
I went to mediation about 8 months after our separation to sort all this stuff but he wouldn't respond or go.
I just want him to do more and show more of an interest. I've never stopped him having them, in fact the reverse I want him to have them
More! he's in services so he has about 40 days annual leave a year to use!
Just so fed up now.
Any similar situations or advice?
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Withholding contact with kids.... can I? I want him to take me to court!!
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gemmajfk · 07/05/2019 20:22
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