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Splitting our household stuff.

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merikissmat Tue 07-May-19 00:34:18

Can anyone advise me how best to split our household stuff? STBX threatening to ‘throw away’ my belongings if I don’t move out soon, we are in the process of getting divorced. I was hoping that we could stay under the same roof until we get the divorced process completed but STBX wants me out asap. I am desperately trying to look for a place to move out!
Any help would be appreciated.

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GodDammitAmy Tue 07-May-19 00:37:06

There's no hard and fast rule I'm afraid, it's a negotiation - do you want this, do I want this? He "can't" throw away your stuff but if he does there is not much you can do about it. Try and get as much as you can together and into storage, ideally while he is out. It doesn't sound like he wants to play fair so you don't have to either. Sort out what you want and get it safe.

Singlenotsingle Tue 07-May-19 00:37:42

Why is it you who has to go?
Hire a storage unit. Is it yellow box? Or a garage.

Honeyroar Tue 07-May-19 00:41:14

When I split from my ex I kept all my stuff, he kept all his, then I made a list of joint stuff. If I wanted to keep it (he moved out and it was furniture etc) I paid him half the cost of it.

Itsnotme123 Tue 07-May-19 05:29:23

I had somewhere to go, and took the things that were important or I really wanted first. Luckily my ex was going to play ball and he boxed up everything else for me and I just went round to collect it with a van. Then the solicitor advised him that I was entitled to any joint items. I chose a few things but I wasn’t really interested by that stage.
You can box all your stuff up and put it in a room/garage/shed out of the way or It’ll have to go into storage or take round to your parents if it’s possible.

Remember it is just stuff most of it which can be replaced. It’s the valuable things or things that are sentimental that you really want at the end of the day !

merikissmat Tue 07-May-19 11:56:12

Thanks for all your respones much appreciated.
I guess its best to box the stuff up and put into storage. I agree its the things that are sentimental that I really care about. Its going to be hard to do this, but i have to be brave!

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stucknoue Tue 07-May-19 14:04:52

Have you got someone to store important documents and irreplaceable things, perhaps a friend or family member? Then speak to your solicitor because unless it's part of the settlement, you don't have to move

merikissmat Wed 08-May-19 02:02:21

No we have not reached the settlement yet, dont really know when we will get to that stage! I am forced to move because I just cant handle the constant mental abuse I am getting. I reached that point where i just feel that its best to move away from this, for my own sanity to be honest.

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RainbowMum11 Wed 08-May-19 02:17:38

XH had to leave (moved to his DO) until I found somewhere else to move to & took what I needed - we discussed the main furniture pieces in advance.

OnlineAlienator Wed 08-May-19 02:23:21

Ha - no help sorry, i read the title as 'our household staff' and clicked for the bunfight grin

Nat6999 Wed 08-May-19 03:39:18

When I got divorced, we split things like stuff we had been bought when we got married by which family bought it, we both took what we had brought when we moved in, I took everything my mum & dad had bought us, I let him have the sofas & dining table as they were worn out. The only thing we fought over was the kingsize bed I had just finished paying for, in the end I told him to keep it & bought a much nicer one for myself. I've been in his house & 9 years later he hasn't changed anything, where I've bit by bit changed things & when I finally get a new house soon I'm changing what I bought after we divorced to what I really want & not just what I could afford that would do for the time being.

Alicewond Wed 08-May-19 03:44:28

Do you jointly own the house or is it his?

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