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Ex Husband doesn’t want to see his DS anymore(6 Posts)
Separated from H in February when I was 8 months pregnant due to his disgusting unforgivable behavior.
I’ve been living with my parents since we separated. He’s been trying to get back with me but I said no I could never possibly forgive what he did.
DS is now 6 weeks old, his grandparents from his side hasn’t even seen him yet or bothered to contact now Ex wants to see DS for the last ever time, as much as I hate him it upsets me that he doesn’t want to see his son anymore..
What will DS think when he gets older with no father figure 🙁 it really makes me sad.
He has chosen this path not you, I know plenty of guys who's dads weren't in the picture (ie. Their lives) and they never blamed their mum. X
He already saw him for the last time.
Refuse further contact (but keep any evidence of the abandonment for any child proceedings he may bring). He's just doing this "last visit" to yank your chain and to see you beg. He sounds a touch psychopathic.
Are you receiving maintenance through CMS?
This abandonment will be more difficult for you than for your child. He wouldn’t now any different and would be perfectly happy with you and the people you surround him with.
Your child will grow up seeing what has happened as normal, may not ask about his father until he is in school and by then you most likely would have surrounded your child with positive male role models ranging from a grandparent to friends.
It is a sad situation to be in that you will find, at times, very difficult. But this is a blessing in disguise, if he is as nasty as you say (and he should be if he is willing to put his son behind him), his distance will keep your child safe. And that is the important thing.
I also agree you shouldn’t allow this self serving last good bye visit. It doesn’t mean anything to your baby and it will only upset you further. Close the door on this and do not allow him to hurt you further. You need to keep yourself in a good frame of mind to take care of the baby well, so protect your feelings as your baby needs you in one piece to learn about love and trust.
Nope. No last visit, he's trying to hurt and manipulate you through your DS.
Please make sure you're getting the money you're entitled to from him and keep all proof of abandonment.
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