I’m currently going through a divorce with my H, my choice my decision because of how I’m feeling.
I sat down last night and wrote a pros and cons list of why I may stay in this marriage, this was after pressure from friends and family who tell me I’m doing the wrong thing.
Background, together 18 years married 9 and have 4 children, eldest 14 youngest 6.
H has a drink problem, drinks varying amounts everyday starting early in the day (after lunch) but always at least 3 times the recommended amount. Also has a problem with gambling. We do not share the same views on parenting, he does not make me feel beautiful or special, and has left me to bring up the children on my own really, emotionally doesn’t support me. We do not really have an affectionate relationship and I have been having sex with him for long time even when I’ve not wanted to, and he’s been ok with this. Doesn’t like me to have a life outside of the family, and causes us to walk on eggshells. I have also managed all aspects of the household, bills etc.
BUT....he does a lot around the house, diy, cleaning, washing and cooking. Has always paid his share of the bills and works hard to provide financially for the children’s birthdays and xmas. He has always allowed me to make decisions that I wanted like giving up work and changing jobs when I’ve needed to for the children. To the outside world he’s the perfect husband and dad.
So my question is, is it ever right to just settle??
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Is it ever right just to settle??
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Itsallchange · 22/04/2019 13:47
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