Hello,
I'm in a difficult phase right now and hope that someone here can help me.
Married for ten+ years. Two little ones, 6&8. There has always been unhappiness, this was never an equal partnership and husband is a good man but very cold, self centered, greedy and money minded. He always has to get what he wants and is very stubborn.After putting up with years of disrespect, lies and neglect, I've decided to leave. Please believe me when I say I've tried, I've gone to great lengths to keep us together but I've finally reached the point where I'm forced to accept that all the efforts have been one sided and that will never change.
I have been the primary care provider for the children this entire time and there were extended periods of time when husband was traveling , etc so it's just been me several times during the course of our marriage. We have been living in England for about a year now. We are however from the US so I will be moving back by myself in a couple weeks. For now, children will stay with the dad. As parents we make a great team and fill in each other's gaps. We each lack certain qualities, so the other always has been balancing it out all these years and it's been good for the kids. (If they grow up with Just one of us they will probably still be ok but their quality of life will be affected)With my leaving, husband wants either one of us to have the primary custody and is flatly refusing the idea of join custody (mainly physical). I am insisting on joint custody because I see that as the best option for the children. I've tried to explain to him why this will be the right thing to do but he simply won't listen at all. Please note : I will be effectively starting from scratch- what with a long career break and all but he has agrees to help me settle . My question is, if I file for a divorce from the US and ask for joint custody will I have a case or am I being silly and thinking too optimistic? I can't think straight, am I reasonable in wanting this or am I snapping because of years of bending over backwards so my husband can have everything that makes him happy at the cost of my own happiness? Thank you for reading
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Jewel2019 · 01/04/2019 00:13
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