Hi all,
I will be totally honest, though I know i will likely get flamed.
I had an affair and I want to leave my marriage (though not for the other man). My husband is a good man, didn’t deserve this, but not always been a great husband - v unsupportive with kids, got us into a lot of debt and very very moody and angry. Nevertheless I know my actions are wrong and have caused a lot of pain.
My kids are 16 months and 7 yrs.
My husband is saying that because I am choosing to leave I should leave the marital home.
I’m suggestion we rotate our time in the home 50:50 or both move out to new places and share cars of kids 50:50.
I’m worried that if I move out of marital home it will feel to the kids that I’ve abandoned them... I’m worried this might have awful affect on their mental health.
I think my suggestions protect them a bit from the sense they have been abandoned.
My husband says I am abandoning them and I need to face up to it.
I love my kids so much, more than anything in the world and I don’t want to leave them - but I do want to leave their father.
Does anyone have advice / experience of a situation like this?
I guess my main questions are:
Would be leaving damage the kids?
Should I go? I don’t want to hurt my husband more than I have already but I do want to be free.
I know I deserve to be flamed but also hoping there might be some balanced advice out there for me.
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manandbeast · 16/03/2019 06:59
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