H is leaving at my request, we were essentially living separately in the same house, our marriage has been in trouble since at least 2016. Not women but his work and hobbies (which are not something I am interested in or physically capable of doing). So if he isn't working he is engaging in one of his hobbies. If I suggested going out for lunch he would be there at the drop of a hat but if I suggested working together in the garden, house, cleaning the car then he would tell me he had work to do.
He is stubborn and has always been reluctant to talk about issues.
I love him but my marriage has not been what I needed it to be for a while now, loving, caring, do anything for each other, warm, shared interests.
So, he is leaving. We are both hurting. His inability to discuss anything emotional or appreciate my point of view and acknowledge my needs led us to where we are as far as I am concerned.
I started seeing a counsellor in 2017, alone, he would never agree to that, either on his own or jointly.
DD is sad, very subdued and I am worried about her.
There is no going back but I really am wondering WTF I have done even though I couldn't live like that for the next 20-30 years and I couldn't see H addressing it either.
Is it normal to doubt? I feel heartbroken right now and I didn't expect to feel like this at all.
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heartofthehouse · 02/03/2019 18:26
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