Hi
I've with my husband for 18 years and we have a nice life, 2 boys 11 and 9 and nice house etc.. He's a great dad and supportive husband in many ways but I haven't been happy for a while. He doesn't really emotionally engage and to be honest we have grown apart. We have probably had sex maybe 10 times in the last 5/6 years and he doesn't try any more for fear of rejection. I've raised a few times how I feel and he tries hard but says he's happy and doesn't see it as I do. Bottom line for me is I do love him but I'm not in love with him. I don't find him attractive in the slightest and feel as I've been living in limbo for the last 5 years in a state of indecision about whether to end it..I've suggested a trial.separation in the past but he just days he's not going anywhere.. I've arranged for us go to couples counselling which whilst he says he doesn't want anything to change- he will do.
To be honest I am frightened to end it( although starting to feel I must have a trial.separation at least to see how it feels) but frightened to stay in something that makes me feel quite depressed for the future. He's a quiet low key guy who doesn't like emotion or confrontation and I'm the opposite and starting to feel as I've started to not be me and am suppressing everything. He doesn't deserve this.
Please help!!!!
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