Long story short - divorcing stbxh - he refuses to leave marital home (he has run up debts & cant afford anywhere to live until I buy him out of our home : his parents won't have him either)
We have had separate rooms for years but persevered with relationship for sake of our 11yr old daughter.. but I've had enough if his financial & emotional abuse & impact his behaviour has on our daughter ( he has no moral compass)
.... my issue is that he uses our daughter to score favour with her. On a daily basis he is telling lies to our daughter about me & I bite my tongue not to counter argue as it just tears her between us & I refuse to lower myself to his nasty level but am stressing that she'll side with him as I'm not defending myself
If I refuse her something, he gives it to her. I try & get her into bed at a reasonable hour on a school night - he lets her stay up until, some nights, midnight. But worst of all for me, he then has her sleeping in his bed with him.
If I challenge him it blows into a massive row & then I worry what is the best of a bed situation for our daughter 🤷♀️
It could be weeks before I get him out (our mediation booked for end Feb .. it'll all go off then as there is no way I'm allowing him resident parent 'status' which he thinks he's going to get)
Any advice/ perspective greatly received
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mug2018 · 05/02/2019 22:20
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