Hi, first time posting but have lurked on and off for a few years. I am married to a man with many narcissistic tendencies. He loves status over everything else and have over the years run up massive amount of debt in order to fund his (just his, not the family's) lifestyle. He also doesn't seem to think that he has to follow HMRC rules and owe them thousands. I've taken out loans and credit cards to bail him out so also have debt but have worked hard to reduce it (he hasn't even though he earns a good wage). We've been together for 20 years and it's not been all bad although I suspect my good times are simply good because they are better than the dark times. We have 2 teenage children and his relationship with them has not been great although he now gets on OK with DS as he's 16 and less of an inconvenience. DD is a typical teenage girl and she won't back down in an argument and they butt heads on a regular basis. He treats her as dirt a lot of the time even though she is a good girl compared to many. For the past 6 months he's barely acknowledged her existence and it's heart breaking. Anyway, I am planning on moving DD and myself out into a rented accommodation. DH will never move out. He has marine tanks which are built-in and his pride and joy. I've asked him to move before and he has refused. DS wants to stay where he is but doesn't want me to go far so I'm looking locally. Finally I'm getting to my question lol. If I move out, do I still need to contribute to half the mortgage in order to be confident of a 50/50 split? Our divorce, when it happens, will be an acrimonious one, so I don't want to give him any ammunition that he can use to get a greater share of the house. I'm phoning a solicitor tomorrow to book an appointment but probably won't be able to make one for at least a week so any advice would be great!
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