Hi All,
I wanted some assistance with a children/ financial matter that I am experiencing with my husband (soon to be ex). We split up in October 2016 and are currently working out children, finance and the divorce. I am a high school teacher.
In October we agreed a parenting plan that allowed the children to stay with me, but see him regularly on weekends and on holidays. As part of this he agreed not to consume alcohol when with the children. However, I am certain he is not complying with what was agreed. The children say he takes them to the pub, and he sits there drinking what he calls ‘apple juice’. I know this is not the case as he has an alcohol addiction problem. He drives the children around drunk. It has now got to a point where he has dropped the children to school late. The children are scared to admit that he is consuming alcohol out of fear that it could have wider repercussions for me and them.
He has deliberately left his job which is reducing the child maintenance he pays and we will be going through financial proceedings shortly to split assets etc. He is being awkward and not allowing me to negotiate a new mortgage deal, which means I am paying an extra £250pm on the mortgage unneccesarily. He also has his eyes on my pension. I have now gone into overdraft and am struggling financially.
• Is there anything I can do regarding the mortgage to lower it?
• Any advice on how I can catch him out or prevent him seeing the children knowing he is consuming alcohol when with the children? Going to court will be a costly process and I do not have a lot of funds left.
Thanks for your help in advance.
Nina
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Nina1202 · 15/01/2019 09:57
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