I am divorcing my ex. I completed the paperwork via sols in sep but he has just received paperwork.
I am divorcing him for unreasonable behaviour and cited 3 reasons (all true) around his aggression in drink, violent threats and financial control. The paperwork said I would be asking him to pay. (Sols advised on all)
Things have been terrible between us since the split in June but had for the most part calmed down over last few months.We have 2 toddlers so we have to coparent together.
Finances and child contact are resolved.
Stbxh is now saying he will only accept the divorce if I pay all costs, I suggested we half or but he said no. If I want to divorce him using unreasonable behaviour and won’t pay he is going to counter the divorce???
Just don’t know what to do, I paid for divorce upfront so technically I have already spent the money but as a single mum to 2 I cannot really afford it.
I am not that bothered about been divorced, no plans to date anyone and would just wait 2 years which I think would at least help to maintain civil relations for dc but my sols said since I have paid court costs and there fee I would lose that money so may as well push on with it. Sols pushed me to start proceedings as so we could start on finances
I don’t know what I am asking..wwyd?
I defo don’t want to get back together but I cannot bear to keep fighting.
Should I just lose the money and cancel divorce?
Should I push through pay all costs and divorce him with the true grounds?
Could I change the grounds of the divorce to something less upsetting for him (he says it’s all lies but it’s not and I have witnesses/ police record)
Sorry for the rambling it’s just all v confusing and I am stuck with him for at least another 17 years
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Confused by my divorce
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Marlboroandmalbec34 · 02/01/2019 13:07
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