It’s a long and pathetic story that has gone on for 3 years regarding what could and should be an innocent friendship between dh and a female friend v. To cut a long story short as it’s been flogged to death on relationships board dh works nights so we only spent 2 nights per week together he struck up a friendship and I got naffed off with him spending it all texting ow call her v giggling at private joke etc so I asked him to tone it down nothing more no issues with him having female friends etc
He didn’t tone it down he just became secretive switched to WhatsApp so it wouldn’t show on the phone bill. Called her the minute he went to work met up with and lied when my work colleague sent me a picture of them together. It’s been lie after lie deleted messages etc. He’s left home 4 times in defence of this new friendship he’s lied to her claiming I’ve said things I haven’t and seems to have enjoyed the attention and shitstorm he has created to him it’s all about digging his heals in as I can’t tell him who he can be friends with
The last time he moved out claiming to be opening his own bank account me and the kids would be left penniless I told him to get on with it found his Id he spent the day wondering round claiming to depressed and came home with his tail between his legs vowing to never contact her again it was more trouble than it was worth
Fast forward to a week ago I go in his wallet to get his store discount card to do my Christmas shopping he swears blind he doesn’t know it’s there he’s not in contact with her fast forward to today he stupidly takes a call in the car when it ends it shows his call log her number is there from Saturday he lied said it wasn’t her number until I suggested we called it. He said she had randomly called him no other contact asked for him to unlock his phone he refused he was itching to get away from me delete it all which is suprising as he usually did only her messages automatically so he flashed the messages a mile away from my face and so quick I couldn’t read them and then pressed delete
I am heartbroken all over again but I will never trust him again someone give me the strength to leave and advise me how to about it I am so hurt once help me find my ager towards him
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Caught dh lying to me for the final time give me the strength to leave please
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Alfiemoon1 · 01/01/2019 20:43
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