Hi,
I am 34, DS 8 and DD 14. Last year husband and I were going through some problems (didn't spend any time together at all). He got friendly with some new guys and started going out drinking all the time. This wasn't usual for him and I must admit I did give him a hard time. Things just went from bad to worse. In Feb this year he moved out to his mothers for a 'break'. This was mutually agreed. In April he decided he wasn't coming back and was 'done'. I had a mental breakdown, took time off work, anti depressants. I think this was because in the back of my mind he was always coming back. Was a terrible time and I am feeling slightly better now but I can't seem to move on. He is still around all the time, and doesn't want to split the finances, we still see each other a lot at social things. All he does not is think of himself. He is acting like a child - going out boozing and spending money he hasn't got (which he has now got into a mess with). His mother has made things worse. She has taken over the role of wife - washing, cooking, cleaning the lot. He has to do nothing for himself. She should have never made it so easy at the expense of his family. I know for a fact that if he didn't have his mums to go to he would still be at home. I just feel stuck and I can't move on. A little part of me still thinks that one day his bubble will burst and he will regret everything. His DD has nothing to do with him really. It's just a sad situation. I think now I am starting to come through the otherside I am starting to feel more lonely and a sense of 'is this it? is this my life now?' - nights alone in front of the tv. I suppose I just need to know I am not alone and things will not always be this rubbish. xxx
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jojogogo84 · 13/12/2018 16:29
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