Hi
So ex h left me 2 years ago.
In the intervening period tried and failed to work things out. Eventually he said it's over and that's it. I asked for a divorce and for him to pay half the cost ( we have no
assets or property to share and one child).
He told me to do what I wanted and he would sign it. But got really angry when I suggested it.
Anyhow I filed for divorce on grounds of 2 years seperation. Court issued the papers 2 weeks has passed and not been received by court, so I assume he's ignoring it.
I can't afford solicitor. Any advice on what comes next or what I can do??
I know the obvious answer would be to speak to him but we do not communicate. Any interaction with him stresses me out. Through counselling I've come to the realisation that he has been emotionally manipulative if not abusive for years and I would rather not open that can of worms by speaking to him as he always finds a way to make me feel guilty or that he is a victim of a situation in some way.
It took me a long time to realise that his affair etc was his choice not something I pushed him into because I was to ill to have sex on demand. And to realise that me wanting to go out and have date night rather than sit at home while he went out with his friends, or that me questiong his choice to give money away to others (women) rather than ensuring his child had the basics was not a sign of me controlling him but visa versa.
I know I could have filled the form in on grounds of unreasonable behaviour but thought doing it this way -2 years would be quicker and easier.
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Ignoring divorce forms
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Sunshineandreign · 04/12/2018 03:14
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