I don’t know what to do about my marriage. I have been married for 13 years . I have two primary school aged children with my wife (no other kids involved ) my wife has always been bad with money . Lots of over spending over the years . Always on rubbish too. She just wastes money . Nothing I have ever said has made any difference. And we have talked about it much in the past . But this time she really has gone too far . The real kicker is she’s not spent the money herself. She’s acted as ganentor for a amigo loan for a neighbor, the loan is for £7500 and has a 49.9% interest rate . It seems we hve been paying his loan for around six months at the cost of £280 a month. Which we can’t afford . Over this time we have not been able to pay our own bills because of making these payments. The people are not even good friends of ours. I don’t understand why she has done it. Or why she has been trying to hide it from me .
I’ve been unhappy in the marriage for a long time anyway . We have t slept together for 18 months . And before that it would only be a couple of times a year since the kids were born . We don’t do anything together . I don’t really go out at all . We both work.
I just don’t know what to do? I kfeel guilty because of the children . The whole thing is just making me even more unhappy.
Dose anyone have any advice ?
Thanks in advance
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Homer101 · 26/10/2018 07:28
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