I’m all over the place and can’t think straight. Me and H at the beginning of separation, solicitors involved etc.
Our house is mortgage free, quite big and home to our two dc. Not sure what pensions etc are worth yet but H seems to think that if I want to stay in the house I will need a big mortgage to buy him out (he may be right and I’m looking into this).
Not sure what to do for the best. H refusing to move out until we decide what’s happening with the house which is extremely stressful. Options are:
- I get as much of a mortgage as I can to stay here with the kids. Will be continuity for them but a big financial strain on me.
- We sell the house but could take a long time (market slow here) and H wouldn’t move out until it’s sold and he has his money.
- He buys me out and I buy somewhere else for me and the kids. I feel like this wouldn’t be a good option for the kids (8 and 7) as it would be upsetting for them to know daddy was in their home but we are somewhere else. Maybe not though.
Just looking for advice as to what you think I should do? I’m totally lost at the moment.