Following from my recent thread detailing the sudden torrent of crap I’ve had dumped on me: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3382893-Out-of-the-blue-DH-not-sure-if-he-loves-me-Gone-away-to-sort-his-head-out?pg=1
Less than two weeks after breaking the news of his departure to me, H has spoken to our mortgage provider who says that we can release £20k in equity from the property. I’m guessing he wants this to pay off some of his debts and put a deposit down on a flat rental.
Apparently we’ll need to go through a new mortgage application, it won’t change the amount of time we have left, and it won’t mean us paying more than we are now. H then threw in the nicely flippant incentive “in fact looking at the deals they have now we could end up paying less” (WOW BONUS). Then asked if I’d be ok with that.
WTAF is this all about? How should I handle it? I had an initial consultation with a solicitor before I got this request who pre-empted it saying I shouldn’t agree to remortgaging. Part of me wants to be strategically cooperative for whatever gets thrown at me further down the line. What are the risks and benefits for each party in remortgaging? For him it means he can get a quick £10k but for me it feels at best unnecessary and at worst risky and naïve.
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Husband ending marriage suddenly. Now wants to release equity from the house.
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desanto · 12/10/2018 09:08
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