Yesterday was my 34th Wedding anniversary but technically speaking my husband and I are separated. October last year, after a very difficult and emotionally draining time, I confronted my husband saying either things have to change or we go our separate ways. He very quickly and with great relief told me he has wanted to separate for quite some time - hence the feeling that he was shutting me out. Since then we have lived in separate rooms within the family home. I was just starting out in my first permanent teaching job and he was setting up his own business (after losing everything when his family business went under). It was not financially viable for either of us to move out at that point. We have put our house on the market but there has been nobody interested in buying. So here I am almost a year down the line, stuck in limbo. I am finding it very difficult to cope with living under the same roof. My husband just wants to behave as though we are friends and everything is fine. I on the other hand am finding it so hard to cope with the loss and pain he has put me through. I am seriously considering taking the plunge to rent a house but am worried a) could this be used against me legally when we get to the divorce point b) will he look after and maintain the house and garden C) can I really afford to move out on my not very big salary An added complication is that our youngest daughter, 24yrs, still lives with us. She has serious mental health problems and has made it clear she wants to live with me. She is unable to work full time due to her severe depression (recently attempted suicide) so is dependent financially as well as emotionally. We also have a much loved dog who would have to come with us making it harder to find a rental property! I am desperately trying to find a way to move forward but don't know what to do for the best. I don't really want to leave my lovely home until I know we have secured a sale but on the other hand living in limbo is so stressful and upsetting.
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