Can't really believe I am writing this, but completely out of the blue today my DH of 16 years announced he has fallen in love with someone else. It's such a cliche - I am in total shock. I feel like the only thing I can do is be practical and try and take control of what happens from here on.
Anyway he has gone to his mum's for a few days 'for some space' and to think about things, but certain things have come to light since he has been gone that mean I am 100% sure our marriage is over.
I would like to think he will be decent and fair about stuff but he is clearly not the man I thought he was so need to know what I should be doing now to protect the interests of our two children (12 and 14).
We have been reasonably comfortable financially but he is by far the highest earner as I took a career break and now work school hours.
Pretty much everything is in a joint account, bar a couple of investment ISA's he took out earlier this year. House is owned without mortgage but there is no way I will be able to buy him out on my current salary.
I suspect he will be quickly wanting to set up a new household with the new love of his life (small village, children all go to the same school - is going to be a f*ing disaster for them)
Also we have told them he has gone away for work for a few days but I don't want to lie to them for longer than necessary.
Help me protect my dignity and my sanity :-(
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He's left me - what do I need to do?
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diskdrive · 11/08/2018 19:47
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