Dear friends,
I’m very unhappy. I don’t want to be married to my husband anymore. He’s not a bad person but there’s nothing between us anymore . He’s 20 years older than me , I’m 45 now. I just don’t fancy him anymore and have felt like this for years. I can’t make myself have sex with him anymore so we don’t . I told him a month ago that I wanted us to split up which he took well but now seems to think I’ve changed my mind (despite the fact that nothing has changed between us, don’t share a room or no affection).
Weirdly he never pursues why things are as they are, I don’t get it🤔.
I know we should split up but feel stressed by the concept of staying and leaving.
If we split and sell up . The house needs lots of things ( mostly minor) doing to make it sellable and he will not help me ) as it’s my decision to sell.
My family are not supportive ☹️. Mum knows I don’t love him but says I should stay as it’s easier financially and with childcare and he’s not a bad man so I should just carry on. I told her I’d felt like this many years and the age gap is now becoming more apparent but she said they’d always been a 20 year gap so why is it a problem now 😳. When he was in his 40’s and I was in my 20’s it was different to what it is now, we’ve changed .
Feel scared and don’t know what to do? Do I just stay with someone despite us not loving each other because splitting is more stressful ☹️
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Want to divorce but feel alone and worried about the future
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gizmocat1 · 11/08/2018 05:31
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