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Karac93 Wed 01-Aug-18 19:25:29

I’ve been married for 5 years, together 10. We have two children together one who is just a baby.

I love my husband very very much and love the person he is apart from a massive thing which is there is absolutely no trust. I do not suspect he’s having an affair or anything like that but he near enough constantly lies to me. Mainly about money and how much we have. We both work in pretty low wage jobs full time but he’s gotten us into pretty bad debt without my knowledge and he just continues to lie to get himself out of “trouble”

Like I said I love him but I want to leave him. The constant lies literally have me on edge . Some are small, white lies and others are big (like the debt ) whenever I have confronted him about it he apologises and promises me he’ll never lie to me again but he does. It’s draining me and making me feel so unhappy even though I completely adore him.
What should I do

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Knockerefc Wed 01-Aug-18 19:57:11

I'm in exactly the same situation with my wife. The debt and lies have destroyed us and now I've lost absolutely everything. She wants the house, car my daughter and is going on holiday in 2 days and now I can't go so I've lost all the holiday money I had spent to.
We are in the 3 third week of separation. I've been told I have the 4 weeks she is on holiday to get out of the house

Karac93 Wed 01-Aug-18 20:15:53

That’s so sad Knockerefc. I think seperation is so much harder when you still love each other but other issues force you apart.

I know 100% that me and my husband will be good sharing assests (the little we have) and he can have the kids whenever he wants but I’m just debating whether leaving is the right thing for us. I just don’t see any change and the trust is gone

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MissedTheBoatAgain Thu 02-Aug-18 03:18:19

* apart from a massive thing which is there is absolutely no trust*

I just don’t see any change and the trust is gone

Sounds over to me

Knockerefc Thu 02-Aug-18 09:48:11

Very very sad times for me. Two days until my wife and daughter go off on there holidays for 4 weeks and leave me at home before kicking me out. My wife is going on holiday despite the fact her lies are or have destroyed our family. And now all's she is doing is hiding behind her busy body parents telling more lied about me this time to make herself feel good and make me look bad

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