Husband in prison and I'm pregnant

[Ash1992]

I'm really in a dilemma my husband is in prison and I am expecting a baby. Is there anyone that has been in a similar position or is in a position now.

[aliceinchunderland1]

This must be hard for you, how long is he in for? Do u want to be with him when he's out?

[MrsBertBibby]

What is the dilemma? To keep the baby? The relationship?

[TroysMammy]

How long has he been and will be inside and is it his baby?

[Ash1992]

Hes in there untill December im due in january. Yes his baby the dilemma is juat having to go through it alone with appointments etc i have my mum for support but because its our fist he wilp be missing it . He came to the first scan
I waa thinking of ways to keep him involved like creating a baby book

[Keepsmiling1]

I would try to focus on the fact that he will be home for the baby once he/she is born. Although it's very disappointing that he will miss the appointments etc he will at least be home for the birth (hopefully) and the rest of the baby's life. It would be much harder if you were going to have a newborn alone or even having to explain to an older child where their dad is. So although not ideal it's not the worst situation!

[Ash1992]

Thanks when you put it like that it doesnt seem as bad

[flossietoot]

Contact the prison to see what family support they have available- many in Scotland for example have charities like ‘familie outside’ and ‘circle’ linked to them.

[Ash1992]

Ok great thanks will do .

[LEMtheoriginal]

Are you considering terminating your pregnacy because your dh cant come to your antenatal appointments?

[aliceinchunderland1]

OP didn't say anything along the lines of termination?!

[Ash1992]

No way not at all. I wouldnt even think of that

[LEMtheoriginal]

Oh gosh. Im sorry its not really a dilemma then. I misunderstood.

Yes it is a shame he will miss out but that is his fault and his punishment not yours. Try not to let it detract from the joy of your pregnancy. Use the time he is away to focus on being kind to yourself and lookingafter yourself. Try not to worry too much about your dh other than looking forwad to being together when the baby is born.

Maybe write a pregnancy journal to share with him onvisits etc. Incude all the morning sickess and changes you feel physically. First movements etc.

He'll be home soon and then you can settle into your new family.

[Ash1992]

That's a good idea ill definitely set up a diary.