Advice needed
Left husband of 12 years very recently due to aggression in drink, had to move 30 miles away with 2 dc ( 2.5 yrs and 11 month old) to stay with family as husband wouldn’t leave family home
Husband never been hands on with dc Never bathed dc, never got up in night, very much fun Dad for an hour every evening but never done much real parenting
Husband now wants EOW plus 1 overnight midweek plus 4 weeks holidays. He wants to start this ASAP with toddler and will wait a few weeks until I have weaned my breasted baby then baby to go too.
My objections to this are:
I have tried to wean baby but they will not take a bottle, will take a few sips from a cup but still wakes in night for a feed. I don’t know how to wean in a few weeks and not sure if this is in best interests of baby
Toddler has only stayed away from me once since baby was born. He stayed with mil and fil and fil told me the next day he had been very distressed asking for me and baby
I think if he takes them both out for day then baby comes home to me and toddler stays overnight the toddler will somehow feel abandoned or be upset
The split is so fresh and hard for all but toddler has moved away from family home and friends and I think needs a few months stability before overnights are considered.
I just want to do what’s best for my babies but I am not sure what that is. I don’t want to stop them having a good relationship with their dad. He loves them to pieces and they love him
Advice please? What arrangements would people suggest?
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Marlboroandmalbec34 · 13/07/2018 18:05
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