I need to get my husband out of the family home. He is an alcoholic and addicted to cocaine. When he is in the grip of his addictions nothing else matters. We have a young son who I want to protect from the fallout from his Dad's issues more than anything.
However I have just spoken to a solicitor, who was quite confrontational, or playing devil's advocate, unsure which but he wasn't very pleasant. He said I need 'corroborating evidence', i.e.more than just my word. Apparently Police records (of my calls), health visitors records (visits resulting from my calls to Police), evidence that he has stolen from me and attempted to defraud me, and his medical history (proving addictions) are not enough to exclude him. It would just be my word against his. So in other words someone else would have to confirm how bad he is (people know but not the full extent, and a lot they know from me) or if he bruises me, go to A&E (this is an actual example he gave!!)
Is this true? Am I stuck with this forever, or until a divorce is finalised (not even started as I have no money)? I cannot leave as I have no family nearby and I earn too much to qualify for any financial help (not enough to fund another home though). But we cannot live this way. He is addicted and abusive in many ways as a result. The effect on our lives is devastating.
Please help with what to do next. I only stay because I feel trapped and what the solicitor said confirmed that feeling
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How to get him gone
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Sinkingswimmer · 06/07/2018 16:48
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