Re: husband resigned from job during divorc

[Confusedmummy2017]

Hi,
Anyone able to offer any advice on divorce finances when the husband quits his 57,000 a yr job during divorce. He did tell me he'd do anything to get out of making payments!

He has even already mentioned whilst I am out of work! Meaning he will soon be bk in it! I'm a part time worker but can't afford the mortgage fully alone with the 3 kids.

I was hoping to stay in the house but now looks like that won't happen as he is trying to avoid paying at whatever cost. He is financially controlling and I'm acting for myself as can't afford a solicitor.

He claims his parents are supporting him that was his excuse to the judge about why he hasn't claimed benefits.

Any advice much appreciated

Thanks

[NT53NJT]

Why would you cut your nose off to spite your face? £57k is ALOT of money to give up just to not give you some money.


What a clown he sounds.

[Notbeingrobbed]

Why would he do that? I don’t understand these men who don’t support their kids? Don’t they understand the responsibility of being a parent.

Can you maybe increase your working hours to improve your mortgage situation? That’s what I’d do, if it is possible.

What irks me is that I (a wife) have worked very hard and have always been responsible with money. I never wanted to depend on a man but now my STBEX wants my savings off me. He has a job. I don’t consider that fair. The savings are to fund the kids’ uni fees.

Meanwhile he pays no maintenance and has never tried to get a pay rise.

[Kirbs1979]

If he seems sure he won't be out of work long is there any way to check he hasn't just taken an unpaid sabbatical, I can apply for up to 6 months at my work.

[Confusedmummy2017]

Thanks all. He put a copy of his supposed resignation letter and a letter from his boss confirming his end date. I'm 100% certain he is money stinge always squirrels money away he will not stay out of work but he has done it to avoid spousal maintenance and getting a low percentage of house.

He is trying to get the house sold. I am looking at increasing my hours but the trouble is I have 3 kids and nobody except a few friends around who all work. I have been fully paying the mortgage since Jan with a struggle doing extra shifts as I work in hospital they always need extra staff but this isn't really managable long term with the kids at the min but will be in the next few years.

I'm kind of in a is the house worth the fight kind if mood I had hoped to stay it's near work school etc I've had it decorated since he left.

I've even thought about renting out my room!

[lifebegins50]

Where are you in the divorce process? Has he submitted form E?

Is there much equity/pensions between you.

He will have to show bank statements but sadly if someone wants to lie then they will, even to a judge.

[Confusedmummy2017]

Submitted form e, divorce ay decree midi stage. He has given my printed versions of bank statements not pdf so could have altered them so that I will ask for proper copies.

Between us his pension 47,000 mine 34,000 equity in house around 145,000.

I've contacted a mackenzie friend who said the judge will look at what his earning capacity is.

What annoys me so much is he plays on the stress blaming everyone else yet I'm the one left with 3 kids and stressing that I'll have nowhere for us to live, working ever hour to try to make ends meet, dealing with the kids and how much of a detrimental impact he has had on mine and their mental health he was a bully them he just throws his job in cause he's stressed!

[abbsisspartacus]

He has possibly taken unpaid leave

[Lonecatwithkitten]

The judge saw through that and left the split as it was if he was employed. There was no maintenance for a while until after 5th April when they caught up with him.

[Xenia]

If he's not working surely he then minds the 3 children 6 days a week so you CAN work full time and earn enough to take on the loan though? He cannot have his cake and eat it - if he gives up work he should be forced to do 70 hours of childcare a week.

[dopedg]

He takes on childcare you work full time.

[HollowTalk]

Yes but then he'd want to live in the house.

[dopedg]

Is he not allowed to have the house if he is looking after the kids?