Hi everyone,
My ex-partner and I have very recently separated and he is currently living with his parents. I have our 2 year-old son living with me.
He says that once he has moved into his own place, he wants our son 50/50 - i.e. with me Monday, with him Tuesday ... etc!
I am REALLY concerned about the implications of this on our son psychologically. Not only would it be a logistical nightmare but completely confusing for him (both now and when he gets older and wants to plan stuff, has homework, friends, games on the go, etc). He's also quite attached to me as I have always been the consistent thing in his life (dad working away etc) although dad wouldn't recognise this.
My ex is adement that he does not want to be a 'part-time dad' which i do understand, but I feel he has come to this decision with his personal needs in mind, rather than the best interests of our son. I dont think he even recognises this, or the implications for our son.
We are currently on good terms so I don't want to sour things by taking this further with a solicitor - however I really don't want this to happen, as I feel it would be really hard on our son who would essentially be living out of a suitcase!
Surely this isnt a normal arrangement ... I had assumed that our son would stay with me throughout the week and then with dad at the weekend ... dad would be welcome to come over during the week.
I dont know what to do. I havent yet told him how I feel about this because I know he will think I am doing it for my own selfish reasons but this isnt the case at all !!
I admit to only just joining MN to ask this question because I have no idea where else to go for advice so I am sorry you haven't seen me before but now I am here it seems a great place! :)
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HELP!! 50/50 living arrangement ??
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artemis14 · 13/06/2018 18:11
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