Husband (as he still is) and I officially separated last April 2017. We are STILL living in the family home together with our boys ages 5, 7 and 9, and sometimes I'm not sure how I've managed this far!!
The sting in the tale is that he has cancer, which he will now no longer discuss with me as he thinks its none of my business. It is when I know ultimately it will be me having to pick up the pieces for our boys when he isn't here anymore.
He has a girlfriend and has been with her for almost a year. Goodness knows why she can accept that he's still living with his wife so much further down the line whilst going through the health issues that he is.
He won't sell the house as he is scared I will take the boys to Sheffield where my family are and buy up there. He won't move out, keeps saying time and time again that it should be ME moving out...??!!! Seriously????
So we got a court hearing set for August and the latest is that he is trying to cancel it. Trying to get his GP to write a letter saying he isn't fit to attend the hearing....I must add that he is working full time and spends at least 3 evenings a week out. So I question why a court hearing to resolve this hideous living situation is so difficult for him!
The court hearing was keeping me going. Knowing that the judge wants the best for the children, which is who this is about at the end of the day. I'm praying that the judge will still try and deal with the case no matter what EX Husband tries to do in terms of adjourning postponing etc....
I can't carry on living like this much longer. Its horrible. The poor boys are so confused. Going out for days out with Daddy and GF and her kids and then coming home to Mummy.
I just want an end to this awful mess we are in. If he could be honest with me about his health and if this prognosis is bad and that's the reason for this trying to cancel the court hearing then I might be able to understand a little but he's telling me nothing even when I directly ask him.
I'm self representing in court I should add. I've had contact with court who have suggested that the judges are used to sad situations like this and I shouldn't panic until I hear anything from the court to the contrary. The paperwork that came with the court hearing said both parties have to agree to adjournment which I obviously wont.
Support....advice...experience....all mucho appreciated!!
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mumof3boy · 11/06/2018 17:14
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