Head not with it, Divorce Help

[totiredtotype]

I posted in the wrong place so technically my second post:

First post ever so bare with me, I found out in April that my husband of nearly 18 years had a 9 month affair (ended last October), I agreed to allow him to remain in our home until we sorted his accommodation etc, but I threw him out a month later.

I cannot afford solicitors nor do I want to wait for legal aid so I looked up DIY divorces, although the forms look okish, my head is not quiet with it (obviously)

Can anyone point me in ANY direction of any templates of completed applications to see if i'm doing this right?

From Northern Ireland if that helps (forms are different)

[Mountainsoutofmolehills]

All evidence. Do not be kind. Women are too kind in divorces and break ups.... Good luck. What a rotter.

[totiredtotype]

The woman in question didn't know he was married, she ended it as soon as she found out. She will not engage with me for proof though, so I just have his word that he will admit to everything (I will be getting this in writing this week.

But I have no idea what I'm doing with these forms, I need templates or something to see if I'm doing it right x

[RoseH2]

Hi I'm in a real pickle hoping someone can help or if anyone's been through similar, firstly I apologise to anyone reading this who's been cheated on because you'll probably hate me, I've been in a pretty seperate and distant marriage for 8 years but been together for 16, I had my head turned by a guy I did really fall for but he's now gone back to his wife anyway, it was a 9 month affair and was very hard living with the guilt, so I confessed to my husband and now he's so angry I've had to leave our home and our 2 children are still at home with him. I miss them so much but have been seeing them regularly but not over night as I'm currently sofa surfing. I can't believe I've messed up so much and my mind changes daily/hourly about what I should do next. Renting on my own would be hard but going back to the house would not be ideal either..

[RoseH2]

Im sorry i meant to put this on main page and cant work out how to delete it from yours. I'm sorry for what your going through and hope your outcome is happier

[totiredtotype]

What is with people having affairs for 9 months, my husband and you.

If you have an affair of any sort, your partner can find out and break absolutely everything.

Although with mine, we were very close, or so I thought.

Hope you find accommodation to get your children on a more regular basis.

[RoseH2]

Does he want to make things work with you and could you ever forgive him. I don't know if it helps but if like me you can fall for someone or something and still be very much in love With you? Its obviously our insecurities and issues that are the problem not you. Maybe 9 months of a part time relationship is when the honey moon period goes and you realise what you've actual got is actual worth saving. Sorry if me comments are not helpful i just understand the pain of losing everything

[helloooomeee]

No idea about templates etc... when XH and I divorced we did it very amicably and used an online service which only cost around £250 at the time for the divorce and financial order. All the forms are checked before they are submitted to the court and you can ring for advice about how they should be completed. Not sure if you had considered using something like that?

[Pinktails]

I found Wikivorce helpful when I diy divorced last year op.
//www.wikivorce.com Just make sure you're spelling and wording is
the same is on the marriage certificate. For unreasonable behaviour
they don't want chapter and verse just 4 short and simple examples eg:
1)My husband had an inappropriate relationship that caused me distress.
2} My husband refused to help me with the household chores making me feel very stressed.

Sorry you're going through this op.

[Pinktails]

*The same as it appears on the marriage cert.

[totiredtotype]

I'm going to contact CAB tomorrow, hopefully they can help. I can barely afford the divorce itself without adding extras in.

RoseH2 I will never forgive someone who told the 'other woman' he loved them, no matter how much I still love them.