Looking for advice as I am separating from my P and as we are not married and we jointly own the house he is refusing to leave. We have 2 very small children (toddler and baby).
He refuses to leave because he is afraid of losing any parental rights, especially as regards the toddler. He looked after the toddler while I worked 4 days and helps a lot now because we have a new baby. I fear he sees himself as primary carer, even though I am currently on maternity.
However, he is also saying we should sell and split the equity, however it is not in my interests to do so as I cannot afford to buy for myself and 2 DCs on my current budget.
This means I am stuck with him and have nowhere to go.
He maintains that I am to blame for the split however he turned abusive after the first child was born and withdrew affection and emotional support throughout the second pregnancy. He drags up the past to justify his current position but I understand that you cannot cause a person to become abusive. He is very clever, knows all his rights and thinks he is blameless. I do not care who's to blame so much as want what is best for the children. Living as we are indefinitely is not it. He is utterly stubborn and sees me as just a vessel who brought his children into this world and that is all. He sees himself as equal to me as the mother and equally entitled to family home etc. He doesn't like me breastfeeding as this increases the DCs dependence on me. Every point I make he copies and mirrors.
I suspect he has a porn addiction also.
Can anybody advise me with regards to my best interests in this situation?
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ladywoowoo · 10/06/2018 16:22
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