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Will he come back?(5 Posts)
My husband and I have been married three years this September, together 5 years and known each other for 11 years. We have a two year old, a one year AND I’m 34 weeks pregnant.
My husband left me at 27 weeks to move in with the ‘other woman’ who is also works with. He’s 24, she’s 34 and has no kids of her own.
He wanted me to abort this baby when we first found out because he already had issues bonding with our daughter however I couldn’t go through with it. He’s been suffering from depression for as long as i’ve known him and he admitted that one of the reasons for all this was this baby as he doesn’t know how he will cope.
Twice he’s been round and cried, A LOT. He says how much he misses this kids and the house but he doesn’t mention me nor do I ask. He did say he doesn’t know if he loves me anymore, he won’t even make eye contact with me now either. He did say he doesn’t know if he wants a divorce though. I honestly think he’s having some mental breakdown.
He got himself into a load of debt too and because he’s agreed to pay the mortgage for child maintenance he barely has no money at all and has entered into a debt management plan. I used to contribute to his bills when he lived at home but he didn’t consider that when he left.
He looks really miserable and I’m just wondering if he’s realising the grass isn’t greener and what’s going to happen when the baby arrives...
I love him still and I’be already forgiven him for all of this. It takes too much energy to be angry and none to be happy.
Lets hope he doesn't come back. Who puts their pregnant wife through this misery.
You'd be better off alone awful though it seems now.
How can you trust this man again.
I agree with the PP. if he came back how could you ever trust him again?
It also takes too much energy to constantly be living with the uncertainty of being with someone who doesn't know what he wants. Too much energy to not have a partner who has your back. Too much energy to be part of a pair, when the other person can't take responsibility for themselves let alone their family. Your energy would be much better spent looking after yourself, your children and your unborn baby.
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