I will try to be as brief as possible!
We separated over a year ago and my (still) husband refuses to move out. Things are awful in the house. He put up cameras and microphones to record me and is generally making life very difficult for me and children. He spends no time with them at all, after work he goes to our room and drinks all night. I am sleeping on the floor downstairs in dining room. He says I can carry on sleeping with him, what's the problem.
He lies about every single paper I have needed him to provide and as such my legal costs are about £4000 so far. I'm looking at around £12,000 by the time it all ends. I have been trying to get his pension statement since September. We are due the FDA at the end of this month, we have formally exchanged Form Es and his is pathetic, no up to date bank statements and, again, no pension statement.
We have a large amount of debt in each our names, but I am managing mine really well. He claims this is the reason the house must be sold and I must move out with the kids, even though financially I would be very squeezed as mortgage is cheaper than the rent around here.
He is paying of minimums on his debt, giving me as little as possible each month, nothing towards repairs of house, kids' essentials etc. The rest of his wage goes on bars and basically travelling around visiting friends over weekends, doing what he likes.
He has said he will not move out until house is sold. But then he doesn't file papers on time, so he obviously is in no hurry and thinks our awful co-existence in the same house is acceptable. I have overheard him speaking to his relatives and bragging how he is bringing me to my knees and how he just winds me up deliberately etc. Our children are 13 and 10, one autistic. His Mum is paying all his legal fees, so he does not care about how long things last. She also provides him with a basic monthly allowance, which he hasn't disclosed.
I am almost crumbling here. I can't even move out as I can't afford it and it would obviously mean he would just stay in the house as long as he wants to anyway, so I think it would make things even slower.
Are there any of you out there who have been in a similar situation? I can't see any light at the end of the tunnel at the moment. The kids are upset, I am upset. We are living in this house of misery and I can't take it for much longer. My lawyer says with the FDA being end of June, we are probably looking at the trial towards the end of the year. He has stipulated to me that he will not negotiate on anything and wants a full trial, because Mum is paying. I have no money left and he knows it.
Thank you to anyone out there who can give a little advice...
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Divorcing for over a year and no end in sight, husband won't move out
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vdanci31 · 05/06/2018 12:52
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