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If you filed for D what were your reasons..

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BettyBo33 Wed 30-May-18 12:02:06

Anyone willing to share the reasons for D as they were filed on the paperwork and did your Ex contest your reasons?

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Tutuye Wed 30-May-18 12:06:13

I'm going for refusal to contribute financially to household. He hasnt quibbled too much yet but we'll see, he seems to be making vague attempts in conversation to justify himself but iv said a solicitor probably wont accept lack of even minimum wage or any kind of business plan as proof of him supporting us....

BettyBo33 Wed 30-May-18 13:27:05

Thanks tutuye. I thought you needed to list 3 or 4 reasons to file under unreasonable behaviour?

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Tutuye Wed 30-May-18 13:32:14

Oh, haven't come across that...

Dropdeadfredra Wed 30-May-18 13:32:48

Suggestions...

Was abusive withholding money.

Would not involve himself in normal family life.

Withheld affection.

Withheld sex.

Was rude to family/friends.

Was unsupportive of outside interest.

Was not considerate of emotional needs/well being.

Was overly critical causing confidence issues.

Would not communicate and left you feeling lonely and unloved.

Or tell us why you left him and we can suggest how to word it.

OohMrDarcy Wed 30-May-18 13:33:44

Adultery.

He didn't quibble.

Tutuye Wed 30-May-18 13:34:19

He also did no housework, DIY or took any of the mental load in running the household tho AND i did a large chunk of the organising/running and attempted improvement of his 'business' so i hopefully have enough grin

paintinspiration Wed 30-May-18 20:10:54

Lack of any care, interest and affection.

Propensity to get disproportionately angry about things and then to stonewall me for weeks and weeks.

Refusal to put my name on any family property and hiding assets - leading me to feel insecure.

EllenJanethickerknickers Wed 30-May-18 20:12:27

Adultery. They advised against naming her. hmm

Rosie2000 Wed 30-May-18 22:26:16

I was advised that the ‘unreasonable ‘ part comes from the feeling it had on you. So, for example, how the unreasonable behaviour made you feel, impacted on your life. This would be different for each of us. Another tip (although rather blunt) is to list the first, the worst and the last incidents with approximate dates. Good luck

Rosie2000 Wed 30-May-18 22:27:18

Oh and I’ve yet to discover whether he has contested

Justalittlebitblondie Wed 30-May-18 23:04:17

Adultery - and I named her as corespondent - and did it all myself... she refused to tick the box saying she agreed but the judge still granted it...

pointythings Fri 01-Jun-18 21:14:05

Refusing to take part in family life
Not doing his share of the housework despite both of us working f/t
Alcoholism
Not taking an interest in parenting his children

He quibbled initially, then signed.

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