Amicable divorce 10 years ago have a 15 yr old daughter.. fairly good relationship with her dad.. he lives about 60 miles away demanding retail job (so works lots of weekends) so daughter stays with him once every few months generationally.. he has a baby son with his future wife who he is marrying this year..
we have a private financial agreement which he pays on time monthly £300 so probably a bit above what the CMS would say he should pay..
Dilemma is the wedding this summer is abroad & ds is bridesmaid they have got her dress (not sure how relevant but very inexpensive dress) & he's asked me incase they don't get a chance to shop with her to get her some shoes to wear with the dress.. I don't mind but should I ask him to pay for them or should it come out of the money he gives me anyway.. ? I have been buying her clothes for the 2 week holiday (obviously more summer clothes than she would need if she wasn't going on holiday) he's not offered any extra money.. she also needs a suitcase, beach towel, sun cream, insect repellent (Caribbean) should I be expected to buy these too?
My gut feeling is he should pay for some extras.. he is very tight with money.. (her recent birthday was a gift of £30) never gives me extra for new uniform, didn't pay a penny towards a recent school trip to Belgium (my mum had to help me with that)
I know he will not offer additional money & if I ask will not be happy so if the general opinion is I should swallow additional cost then I won't make a fuss..
I have a young son & I work, but money is tight. In our divorce I walked away with nothing signed over house to him (a whole other story) which he rents out & he & partner have another house.. both in well paid jobs too..
Sorry it's long but feel detail was important.. thank you
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dilly123 · 20/05/2018 11:54
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