Been separated a year and a half. I got full custody of DC basically as XH was never around and he did not contest it.
When asked when he wanted to have them while we put together the agreement he offered a grand total of 3 nights a month (and two of those only one child at a time). Once a week he comes up to visit them on a week night for 2-4 hours which involves him being around the house (I am in the house til the kids are 18). He lives an hour away.
Ok, the weird problem -- now on the weekends where only I have them, he is always asking to come up to see them for a few hours......which means I have him in and out of the house on the one weekend I am not supposed to see or hear him. I have been agreeing to it as I am soft? stupid? a pushover? don't know if it's better for my kids?
It's horrible for me because he still berates me for various things, tries to stick his nose in my business. I am divorcing him because he was emotionally abusive and financially abusive. (He did things like cash in my saving behind my back and then when I found out said he though he had told me, staying overnight in other places and never giving the address, etc). I feel bullied, just like my marriage.
I think I will tell him if he needs to see them more he needs to ask for more time in the agreement? Any support would be appreciated as I have no one else for support except MN.
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strange separation dilemma
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sixtimesseven · 11/05/2018 21:53
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