I’m in the early stages of the divorce proceedings. My husband earns 100k + and I earn 17k. I’ve worked part time (full time now since the split) but always handled all the childcare, school runs etc of our 3 children as he works long hours and has always maintained that he cannot commit to flexible working arrangements due to the client based nature of his work (hence my paltry salary and term time only job).
I’m currently living off tax credits and my low income and we are in the process of making interim arrangements for the mortgage and bills- he has been very controlling with money and not given me any maintenance in a regular arrangement. I’m in the family home and wondering if, perhaps with family help, I could buy him out.
He quite likes this idea - however has always maintained that I should walk away with 50% of the house and no spousal allowance, no right to his pension. My lawyer has suggested that there may be a claim to more than 50% of the house and obviously this would have a huge impact on my security and being able to keep the children in their home. STBXH becomes very controlling and domineering If I dare to suggest might not take his offer and I prefer to see what is usual in these circumstances. These interactions leave me shaky, tearful and anxious. He tells me ‘if you contest it I will fight you and we’ll waste thousands’ and I’m trying desperately to keep things amicable for the kids.
Did anyone get more than 50%? Am I on to a lost cause? He is a commercial lawyer and has lots of lawyer friends saying I’m a ‘money grabbing B’ (though they are not divorce lawyers) and this in itself makes me feel on dodgy ground!
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What percentage of the house would be reasonable?
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MSnotMRS · 05/05/2018 14:17
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