My H and I have decided to divorce but to avoid unnecessary upheaval for the DCs have chosen to remain both living in the house but in separate bedrooms. We have been together for 21 years, married for 17 with 2 DSs 15 and 17. H has his own business which he runs from the home and I am paid dividends as an employee and secretary. Due to the tax advantages by paying me a wage, he pays me a nominal amount each month which is paid into our joint account. We only have one joint account which everything is paid into and which all of our household expenses are paid from. We are both agreed that divorce is the only way and want to do this as fairly as possible for both parties. We did suggest a DIY divorce but we are both worried about the finances and receiving our fair share of what's due.
I also work 28 hours a week part time.
The house has 4 more years left on the mortgage and we don't have any other debts other than the monthly overdraft which we are trying to curtail. Our biggest asset is the house.
I think we need to go down the mediation route together as we are both (at the moment) only interested in the full disclosure of everything and the most amicable way to divide our assets equally.
He is keen to remove me from the business immediately and I've told him to not do anything at the moment until we have had legal advice.
I've taken a cash point statement of what is currently in the business so I am covered with evidence from that point of view.
Is mediation the best way in these circumstance? And if so, do I just phone up a solicitor? Obviously I've never done anything like this before and I'm scared stiff of the enormity of the situation and trying to maintain a non-toxic environment at home whilst wanting to run for the hills!
Can anyone give me some starting points?
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Mutual agreement to divorce and co-habit in the beginning but I've no idea where to begin!
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ComeAllYe · 23/04/2018 10:52
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