Are men wired differently? 14 years together , relationship ok , argued before Christmas, tried to work things through, he went home to Scotland for Christmas and hooked up with old flame, I found out we finished, following weekend and each weekend after that he's been travelling back to Scotland to see her ( 5 hr drive there 5 hr back ) , I just don't understand how he can just switch off from me and onto her like this ? I'm glad to be honest I now see his true colours
My stbxh said he didn't believe in conventional monogamy relationships, he wanted to be free, didnt want to be defined by being a husband or a farther (after 6 years of ivf to have our children). Was off to find himself, but wanted to remain in the family home but date other people etc etc. Fast forward a few months hes introduced our 2 small children to another woman and her children and moved in with them all a few months later!!!!! There is no and i mean no emotional attachment or sense of loyalty towards me and tbh little towards his own children. Its been a very tough year, but im glad that hes gone, hes the most selfish person i have ever met, and i don't want or need that in my life. Im sorry your hurting xxxx
I don't get it either. Two months after it became clear that our divorce is going to go ahead, I noticed that stbx was having very long, very late night and friendly / affectionate sounding phone conversations. So I am guessing that there is already someone else. Or maybe they have been around for longer?
What makes me really laugh is all the tricks he used to lure me at the beginning he is using on her, love poems, I can hear him on the phone to her every night saying same things he said to me, he loves her after 5 weeks, she must feel so special , although I know his charms don't last very long, soon he will return to his miserable self sat on his PC . Too tired to do anything and the social aspect which I enjoyed at the beginning , out for drinks ect he says he CBA and has no money